You had a good marriage that lasted perhaps a short time or maybe 10 to 50 years or longer. That someone was not only your mate but also your lover, your best friend, your trusted adviser and the mother or father of your children.
You have gotten through 2 to 5 years or more of grief and adjustment to being without that loved one.
At some point you have gotten perfect peace in your heart to being open to the possibility that God may have a new mate for you. You enjoy good health or in the case of a senior adult your health may not be as it once was, but to be your age you are doing well.
If your children were older or adults they have all told you that you need to be more involved in social activities, church activities for your age group, and or seek employment to “just stay busy” and be around people.
All excellent advice with good intentions from those who care the most, but do they really realize that you are faced with one of the most difficult tasks a person can face in this life. The task of waiting on the Lord to lead you to just the right person who will be your spouse perhaps for the rest of your life.
Here are some things to consider while you are praying and patiently waiting.
All along this adjustment period and into the new adventure of waiting on the Lord, you have been dealing with the feeling that someone’s missing. You wonder how to deal with that empty feeling.
Have you ever thought about the first man to be recorded in the Bible? Adam was alone. He had given names to all the livestock, the birds of the air and all the beasts of the field. (Read Genesis 2:20) The record states that “for him no suitable helper was found.”
If you have searched for a Bible example, you have already taken the first step in finding a new mate. You realize that you are alone and that someone is missing in your life. You have faced the reality that that “someone” is not your former mate. That relationship is past. The “someone” is truly your future mate. You are ever so conscious of finding that person in a Godly way.
I honestly believe that some people could go on, after their mate has gone on to be with the Lord, and never have the feeling that someone is missing in their life. They have contentment with remaining single. You can find a Bible example in Mathew 19:12. If you find delight in that verse, you may be one of them. If you are afraid you might be one of them, don’t worry, you are not!
Back to those who are completely at peace with taking the next step in finding that “missing person.” You have come to grips with the empty feeling that someone’s missing in your life.
There wasn’t anything else for him to do.
Your part is over, unless you want to get into God’s way. I’m sure He is probably wanting you to just sit still and let Him take care of the Eve part. (Genesis 2:21)
Since you are not in the position of Adam, I’m going to suggest that you begin to follow the suggestions of the grown children or friends and advisers. GET INVOLVED where Eve might be doing the same thing you are doing; waiting and resting in the Lord. Praying for Him to bring you along her path.
He wants you to trust Him. He will bring that new person across your path and when He does He will give you His perfect peace about that person once you have gone through a period of following the Holy Spirit leadership of getting acquainted.
Why not follow Adam’s example. Recognize that you are not supposed to be alone. Leave the rest up to God. If you want His “missing person” choice for you, lean back and trust Him. This is the lesson I have learned in just a few weeks of desperately looking for that somebody everywhere I have gone.
If I want His choice, there is nothing else I can do but trust Him and He will begin to take action. I am totally at peace with trusting Him.
Let’s wrap this up with Two final thoughts.
ONE: God will bring you two together at the right time and in the right place. With Him in control, you will not miss each other, because He will bring you together.
When He took your mate up to be with Him, He already knew who your perfect choice should be. That person was created specifically for you since the beginning of time. Please Trust Him so you will be lead to His choice. (Please read Philippians 1:6 and Ephesians 5:31-33)
TWO: The counter-part God created for you will always be somebody who fits the way you are, very similar in many aspects, and somewhat different in a few, which will foster growth for you both.
God is our Father! Look what we are told in Psalms 84:11, “no good thing does He withhold from those who walk uprightly.” He will not join you to somebody who does not fit at all, whose personality is incompatible to yours, somebody you don’t even care to be with, nor someone who you don’t even perceive to be pretty.
Conclusion: Trust God to bring you together with just the right “missing person” for whom you have been searching.
(Special note. If you are not a Christian and you don’t completely follow along with all that I have written, here’s a brief explanation. Christians are people who have trusted in God’s only begotten Son, Jesus Christ. He was crucified, buried, and rose again the third day. This act atoned for the sins of all mankind. We are trusting in Him for salvation and are therefore “born again” to walk in newness of life. Please read John chapter three in the Bible and place your trust for salvation in Jesus, He loves you!!. We believe from Scripture that if a Christian dies his spirit/soul goes into the presence of the Lord and will be with Him forever.)
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